Sunday, May 11, 2008

Reflections on my hopes to become a mom

Today is Mother's Day & over at the House of Paper, we were challenged to do a page about being a mother, what we think makes a good/cool mom, or why we'd want to be a mother. Since we are within a couple of months of selecting an adoption agency & submitting an application, it seemed very fitting to document my thoughts on becoming a mom. There are so many reasons I want to become a mother ... and so many thoughts I have on the subject. You may click on the above image to look at it closely, or read the journaling here:

I want to become a mom, for lots of reasons. First of all, I think my life would change for the better, providing a whole new depth and dimension to my existence. I think I would really enjoy being a parent, helping a child grow into an adult, even with all the “bumps and bruises” of life. In some ways, it’s scary, being responsible for another human being, but in other ways, it just seems so amazing, to provide guidance & support, and to know when to back off. I like the Chinese proverb: "There are only two things we can give our children. One of them is roots; the other is wings." I believe I would thrive, constantly evolving to meet the needs of a developing human being. There are so many things I would dearly love to share with a child: doing fun crafts, reading together, traveling to fun places, baking cookies, exploring nature, caring for pets, blowing bubbles, flying kites, playing dress up, building forts, making snowmen…the list is endless. I also know there will be hard times with struggles in school, losses of friends, heartaches, stomachaches, lice, allergies, bug bites, temper tantrums, sleep deprivation, making hard choices, living with consequences, setting boundaries, and other unforeseen complications. Nonetheless, I feel strongly that if we expanded our family to include a child, all of us would benefit, and the positives would heavily outweigh the negatives!

We still have to do a home study after we select an agency, and if everything runs smoothly, we'll most likely begin the process of looking for a birth mother in late 2008 or early 2009. In the meantime, please do keep us in mind if you become aware of any birth parents who are considering adoption for their children!

8 comments:

Perry said...

What a wonderful thing you are going to do as far as adopting is concerned. I think it takes special people to do that. I will keep my ear to the ground.

Lisa said...

What a beautiful, heartfelt page. You are most certainly Mother material and I sure this will not be an easy process, but nothing worth having is ever easy. Good luck on this journey and God bless you & your husband.

kimz said...

You will make a wonderful mom!
Imagine one day when your grown child reads that page...
Every child should feel like such a blessing.

Mel said...

k.....made me cry....
(for various reasons...)

The homestudy will be a walk in the park---don't sweat the small stuff.
And what an awesome things you have to bring to the life of a child......really......

*huge hugs*

debra harvey said...

wishing you wonderful wishes good vibes and prayers in your journey to become a mother :):)

Susie Q said...

Home studies always sound scary but aren't really. I promise! : )
I am so happy for you and this journey you are undertaking...being an adoptive Mother has been such a blessing for me.
Blessings to you both and just know that everything you must go through is well worth it.

Keep us posted on everything!

Hugs,
Sue

scrapperjen said...

This is GORGEOUS! Very moving! You will be great parents and I will keep you in my thoughts.
Thank you for sharing such a real subject!
HUGS!

shilla66 said...

I agree with kimz ...
and having adopted kids will not make you any lesser of a mother. Loving the innocent child will be unconditional. You will cherish your moments of growing up together.