Friday, February 27, 2009

What happens now?

I've had a lot of people ask me this question, about the adoption process, so I figured I'd answer it here.

We just got word that our home inspection is now rated as "passing," so we are moved forward in the licensing process. Now, we wait on the state. Once they license us, we scan the license & send an electronic copy to the adoption agency, which will then trigger them to activate our profile. Then, we wait.

Seriously, that's pretty much what happens. We have some criteria that we apply to birthparents, and they have some criteria they apply to us. If we know that a particular child will have issues that we are not equipped (financially, physically, mentally, and/or emotionally) to handle, our profile won't even be shown. If it looks there might be a good match, based off what the birthparents want in an adoptive family (for example, they might want a couple that already has a child, or a single parent, or a family that is Catholic, in which case we don't qualify), the agency contacts us & tells us what they know about the birthparents, and possibly the child. If it sounds like a good fit, we confirm we want our profile to be shown. Then, we wait.

Again, that's what happens. We wait to see if the birthparents pick us. We wait to see if they want to meet with us in any capacity. We wait to see if they actually terminate their parental rights. So, lots and lots of waiting. This is tough, but we think this adoption process is what's best for our family. We have no idea if the birthparents will want updates about our child or not, but we're open to the idea. Heck, being a major scrapbooker, I am open to sending a mini-album every 6 months!

Thanks to everyone who's been so supportive! And now you know .... what happens now!


Kat said...

Congrats on the passing, hun. Sounds like a waiting game now ... do they have any timeframe they are usually to pair birthparents & adoptive parents?

I hope you won't have to wait too long before a match is being made!!! Keep us updated!

Sara said...

Have you looked into a surrogate? I hope all goes well and that your waiting goes quickly! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! :)

trisha too said...

one step closer, congratulations!

it will definitely happen for you, it just takes time. my friend, when they got their son, weren't even ready for him, it happened so fast, but he was already a year old.

happy/patient/hopeful waiting!

crazierinreallife said...

that does sound like a lot of waiting. here's to hoping the wait isn't that long

jacquie said...

Here's hoping the waiting game moves quickly. Did you end up making a little scrapbook about your yourselfs for the adoptive parents to peruse?

Mel said...

Congratulations on passing!

And wait.

May the waiting be filled with lots of adventures for you and himself.
I'll be hoping for good things!

Anonymous said...

That is wonderful that you passed. Now with the waiting...I pray that it will not be long. It will all fall into place very, very soon! Lots of love...and I am here if you need anything.