Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Expecting help?

A failure to plan ahead on your part
does not constitute a crisis on mine.

I have always loved this quote. It never fails to amuse me how much people will freak out when things don't go as planned, and then expect someone else to fix it. I refuse to get sucked in to others' inability to plan. This is an interesting corollary to a previous post where my beloved came to my rescue when I did not plan effectively. Okay, I DID plan effectively, but then failed to carry out the plan. *grin* I tried very carefully to communicate that I was in a crisis situation, and because we're partners-in-life, I wanted his help, but at no point did I ever feel like the crisis was HIS. Kind of like Dirty Dancing: this is my dance space .... and this is YOUR dance space. My crisis, not his. And I didn't expect him to jump in and rescue me -- hope, yes ... expect, no. I think a lot of it has to do with expectations. When people have failed to plan and then EXPECT someone else to fix it -- that sense of entitlement, and the pouting and screaming that comes afterwards, THAT is what sets my teeth on edge!


Ken Leach said...

Too bad the entitlement mentality is all too pervasive at the workplace.

Mel said...

And then there are those who WANT your crisis to be theirs!

*shaking head*

Thanks..but this is MY crisis. Go make your own!